Motherhood: The Traditional Role?
IT was with a heavy heart I came across a recent column by Melissa Kite in the Daily Mail detailing how she was perplexed at the upcoming birth of her computer technician’s new baby. She was horrified by the fact that he had planned to stay at home with the baby and his wife after the birth. Phrases such as “Where was the wife?” and “Did the baby really need the two of them?” are littered throughout the article. Her main grudge seems to be that men should be out working and women should be at home looking after the baby.
Now, let’s take a second for that to sink in and also check the year we are living in while you’re at it. Yes, we do live in 2014. However, it seems that Ms Kite is not aware of this. I am the first to admit that I am not entirely a feminist. This article is just plain bizarre though. In her eyes, men shouldn’t be spending time with their newborn children but should instead be out earning the money to provide for them. So by that mentality, it’s a woman’s job to stay at home and take care of the baby?
In this day and age I have to question it – why? Yes, the caring of the baby had traditionally been down to the woman of the house but I would have thought we had moved on from that. I know of a stay-at-home Dad, I can only imagine what Ms Kite’s opinion of that would be. But I know that it works for him and his family. There are circumstances where it makes sense for the woman in a relationship to work and the man to stay at home.
At its very core, this article is demeaning to women. It screams that women are not as worthy in the workplace as men. How can anyone still have these beliefs in 2014? In order to justify her beliefs she talks about how the fact that men staying home with their children is affecting the economy. This may well be true but only if new parents take an extraordinary amount of time off.
I have no children and I’m not currently pregnant. I do, however, hope to be one day and I would find it sweet and caring if the father chose to stay at home for a few weeks to help out. This, to me, is time well spent. However, it seems that the opposite is the case in Ms Kite’s world as she feels that the battle of the sexes would ensue with the mother fighting to keep control of ‘her house’. I’m quite sure she expects the woman to have the dinner on the table when the man gets home from work.
In order to fully experience the birth of a new baby, it can’t be a bad idea for both parents to be there during the first few weeks. To think otherwise is just ridiculous.
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