Do Women Really Hit Their Sexual Prime In Their 30s?
MEN are said to reach their peak at just 19 but for the ladies, our sexual peak is said to occur in our early thirties. What exactly does this mean physically and emotionally and with such an age difference, can we ever truly be on the same page as our male counterparts within a relationship?
The notion of a sexual prime or ‘peak’ was developed by Alfred Kinsey, a biologist and ‘sexologist’ who spearheaded the research of sex in the 1940s. Part of this research involved surveying men and women to discover how many orgasms they had in a week and discovered that men aged 18 and women aged 35 were experiencing the most. Several theories were put forward for the reasons behind this: a higher level of testosterone and frequency of masturbation in males at the age of 18 and the idea that a woman in her early-mid thirties was most likely married, with a stable home life and therefore more self-assured and confident in herself, leading to better sex – essentially the notion that relationship security equaled better sex.
However, there is a serious age gap between 18-35 so where does this leave sexual compatibility between a man and a woman in a relationship? Well, the notion of a sexual peak is dismissed greatly by many experts, who say that compatibility does not necessarily have anything to do with age. If it did, there’d be a lot of real-life re-enactments of The Graduate going on.
While a man’s hormone levels may be at their highest in their late teens/early twenties, this does not necessarily mean they are having the best sex of their lives at that time. In fact, the hormone levels they produce at that age may result in performing for longer or making them able to ‘go again’. However, their testosterone is actually most effective ten years later, around the 30 mark. By effective, of course I mean for baby making.
A woman is not necessarily going to be any more comfortable with her body in her thirties than she is in her twenties – psychologically and emotionally, she may mature at a much earlier age. A woman’s fertility decreases significantly year-on-year after the age of 30, so in essence the theory could be adjusted to say that a man and woman are most sexually compatible from a fertility perspective at the age of 30.
Many say that having a great experience in bed with your partner is directly linked to how comfortable you are with them and if you can communicate your needs and desires to them. Ignoring the honeymoon phase of the relationship when you could give rabbits a run for their money, if you and your partner have the same ‘regularity’ when it comes to sex, i.e. both wanting it every day – or knowing that once a week is okay – implies compatibility. Of course, just because you have this in common may not mean you have anything else to relate to – but that’s a whole other story.
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